Wednesday, March 13, 2013

(Real) That Ideal Boyfriend

I am free at office these days because my project is almost completed and haven't got any new of them. There are a lot of things piled up to describe
to friends and world around. What refreshing than Blogspot ! Okay so here you go :

(1)"Chokro toh aavo hovo joiye !"
(2)"Tuje kaisa ladka pasand hai ?"
(3)"What kind of guy would you marry?"
are questions which a girl would definitely face atleast once in a lifetime.

And we all know how much complex today's relationships are. And i personally feel that pre-marriage time is the most difficult one because you need to take care of a lot of things and your partner too.
Most of the people are not able to handle things at this early stage (and it is natural) and so the definition of the word break up. I and my sir even had a long discussion once as in "Can new generation break-ups act as virtual divorce".

What this post serves : 

Once i and tirth , my roommate , were discussing as to what type of boy is considered ideal because we were sure that we were nowhere close to ideal guys ! Aapane chokri kon aapse ! A detailed description mentioned here. Girls , show this post to your boyfriends/husbands as it contains some really good points. Ask your guy to follow some possible points , if it does not hurt his ego. Improvement of just a little bit in your relationship would serve the purpose of this post.I agree that the points are generalized so it may not be feasible to follow all but i guarantee atleast 1 point would be relating to YOU for sure.

The ideal boyfriend : 

(1)Lets take the general factors first as in the guy should have a sense of personality (i am not talking style here) , a sense of humour , comic timmings , proper attitude , masculine looks and a serious yet jolly nature. You'll have to pick out the definition of serious yet jolly nature from the points below

(2)Having good friends around you who fun you up in public but appreciates you infront of your girl , is always impressive.

(3)Confess the things infront of your girl even if they can hurt her. The hurting would be momentary but the trust would be everlasting.Pass a confectionery statement at last to convince her to not stay angry for a long time !

(4)Explain the logic behind what a boy wants from his girl. Explain you are also a boy with all those demands but keeping a control just to win her trust.

(5)Dream together . Open eyes . Period !

(6)After reaching a mature stage of your relationship , do call her at random times (afternoon , late night) to talk all like you've just started. Those line-maaro-item-patao days !

(7)Make some planning sort of agreements that 2 weekends in a month is your girls choice while 2 weekends are of your choice (I mean how to spend the weekends). I guarantee 1 out of 4 plans would get cancelled due to her personal/family reasons , so dont get upset. Let go things from your side. This would create a respect from your girl because girls silently maintain a log of cancelled events. She would realize this cancellations for sure.

(8)Be 'that' MACHO

(9)Whenever you guys are together in some group dress regular , but when it involves only you two , be her hrithik/salman. Pass a sugar at the end saying  "Darling sirf tere liye" (I agree i am bad at writing such statements) with a mild comic tone !

(10)Since you both are together from a long time(i hope that) , you must be knowing the things/situations when she gets all flat. Repeat the same things/situations at one or other point of time with different spices added. She would acknowledge this in a very good form for sure !

(11)All goods and no bads make jhonny a non-exciting boy . Fight over some serious issues if you guys need to and bring a permanent solution. Bring a harsh step to action if you need to.The predicted output would gain a respect for you from your girl. She would say to her friends in future that "Its all because he can
visualize more than me.".
Okay don't blush if this has happened to you. Thats so feminine. Remember MACHO !

(12)Once in a while , take her to random outings in a particular time limits. Plan a random 1 day picnic with her.

(13)Always remember to celebrate her birthday in the most off beat style as possible. It would be just 3-4 years you've celebrated her birthday , but you have already won her by 30-40 years with these off beat celebrations.

(14)Take her to your relatives as much as possible.It would serve the dual purpose of dearness for her and restaurant money saving for you !

(15)Request her to pay the bills sometimes ! Don't worry , she'll do as you say !

(16)Always be the first one to take decisions and undertake the responsiblity.Let her understand that you are that serious that you take no chances  in events which are decisive for your thing !

(17)Have a sexy physique !

(18)Apart from appreciating her infront of your friends , even show some public love. Thats a spice. Everyone loves Tikha these days !

(19)At particular intervals , make her realize that other girls still maaro-line on you but you dont pay any heed to them NOW !

(20)Be Ambitious

(21)There would be a natural understanding bond between you guys when you be the slave and she , the master at home and 'master & slave' , vice versa !

(22)As far as getting intimate is concerned , follow your boths heart. Its not a big deal for some while its a universe-cracking for some. The person who is resisting should have a logical throw as to why he/she is resisting and the person who wants should throw as to why he/she wants it at that point of time.

(23)Do the 'Cool' things less if it does not hurt your lungs and liver !Only a zombie would like it !

(24)Be a good cook. There is nothing like the treatment you get , after the lunch which you prepared for her.

(25)Have some hardcore bedtime actions.It is important , either one of you is more expressive there !

(26)Make her enjoy the things which you used to do during your undergrad time ! Each and every guy has some college time special likings and things which make them happy .

(27)Behave in a good way in all the events where men are ought to get angry.Your this temperament would make her a fan of yours.

(28)Always like her choices. Remember you are one of them . Be careful on this point.

(29)After a particular phase , you are 110% sure whether you can handle her or no. Find a solution , don't stretch it more than enough.

(30)Make her understand in advance how much tired you get sometimes and what behaviour you expect at that time.Such situations are mother of all problems.

(31)Cycle together

(32)Surprise getaways are always preferred by girls. One of my personal favourites is to plan a holiday or a weekend in advance and tell her each and every detail regarding it. And at the last moment change the plan to your originally decided secret place.Imagine going to paris instead of a goa trip !

(33)Be a good listener atleast infront of her.

(34)I am repeating this point that let her spend your money as much as she wants. This materialistic happiness doesn't last long in girls.May be max 35. But then 35 to 70 would be a bliss for you.

(35)However the tiger/lion you be infront of your friends, your office mates , your circle , make a habit to let her be the lioness at home.You would be able to get good returns I bet.

(36)Make sure to drop her at her place (under that neem tree) whenever you guys are together and however far she stays.She definitely would plan something each time you drop her next !

(37)Stay close in contact with her brother and her mom.Let the father stay as far as possible.This is a general one.All modern day boys are masters in such things.

(38)One good point to focus is the time to ask her parents.Don't don't don't do it early.Understand how much you earn , make her understand how much she spends  & looking onto basic stuff , decide accordingly.I seriously cannot believe a guy getting engaged or getting rejected by parents when he just earns 25-30k and does not have any shed under him ! Such illogical creatures.

(39)I know this would hurt your machoism , but some of the girls still love THAT sharukh khan moving to a mandir to have a secret prayer for his future partner ! So be that SRK atleast once a season.

(40)Pass those cheesy pick up lines which you might be trying at clubs and beaches , to your girl/wife every saturday evening.

(41)Small points covered on a whole : Trust her , don't judge her , make her smile , listen to those "only-you-can-solve" problems , no overly protective etc etc

(42)Always mention her whenever you are giving a farewell speech or a welcome speech or special purpose events speech. Respect is what she gains and love is what you gain.

(43)It is initially difficult to cope with the behaviour of the girl if you are having an arranged marriage.Try to cooperate with her.Mail her , text her & whatsapp her the things you want to improve and the things which you love the most.Write at the end of the mail that you feel a bit shy so what better thing than texting.

(44)Try to be with her during once-in-a-lifetime events. For example , during her convocation,during a skydiving session (because she won't do it nexttime for sure !) , during her little brother/sister engagement etc.I hope you get the matching line of events in your mind now as i am not able to recollect more of them.

(45)It is okay to get a good cleanup/massage from your girl/wife once a time. Make sure you return the favour in a good way.

(46)Make remarkable events count : For eg : When a hot ass girl is passing by your side , don't even look at her even though the whole crowd is onto her. Instead talk with your girlfriend at that moment. You definitely know what the results would be ! Fun !

(47)This social media can sometimes ponder in serious issues. Define your likes/dislikes/preferences to her and both of you follow the same thing. Don't ask her to carry out things which are difficult even for you to execute !

(48)Plan various activities for your relationship.Celebrate a "All-yes" day for her , celebrate a once a month afternoon hideout , a lunch/dinner prepared for her ,  an item dance for her (Yes,do that) , swimming sessions for just 2 of you etc ! Develop and play a common sport and play it like opposite beasts ! Such things are a booster.

(49)I know you have that Angry young attitude and you sometimes shout on her , but know how to perfectly lift her mood.Even after a fight , there is no harm  in bending down first even if you and she knows the actual culprit.

(50)Whenever you feel , you are saturated and have nothing new , do a start-up together . Remember , time used to fly when you completed each other's assignments and swapped the glass copies of engineering graphic sheets ! Haa !

Thursday, March 7, 2013

(Real) "The girl I want"

(1) "Tane kevi chokri game ?" 
(2) "Tuje kaisi ladki pasand hai ?" & 
(3) "What kind of a girl do you want ?" 
are really difficult questions .

The nature of the question is such that you cannot answer it on the spot. Even if you answer , it consists of only 10% what you wanted to say.

I wanted to write this from a long time as it could serve a little help to many modern-day couples and their problems. People go through crushes , relationships , successfull relationships , breakups and arranged marriage (love marriage is already covered by successfull  relationships !).

The point is , in each of the above mentioned phase of life , the most important thing is to blend with your partner.

If you look up to life uptill now , you would notice a simple fact that anything which is not working the way you want to , has to be dealt with more concentration and hard work. So why not apply this formula towards real-time problems too !

What this post serves : 

Me and my friends many times discuss as to what kind of a girl , a boy likes . This differes from place-to-place , heart , bring-up , mind-set , family background etc. But i feel that this post would generalize the needs of a middle , upper-middle , somewhat gujju , ambivert kind of guy and his expectations for the girl. Please note that this is a amalgamation of many feelings and expectations and so please do not consider it as my personal wants.

How this post would be helpful :

This cannot patch up your severely breaking relationship but on a positive note , i can say that if you ask your girl to read this (or some specific points in post) at any point of time , it would work as a strengthening aspect for your chakkar.

The girl I want :

(1)Since its the first point , lets make all general points clear . She should be nice hearted , nice natured , not too much skinny , shapy/pathho {pathho is a gujarati cute word somewhat obese girl}would do provided  she has the knowhow to carry herself well , preferably long hair (naturally straightened) , simple yet stylish and a pinch of colour in everything. Okay so definition of nice hearted and nice natured is hidden in   following points which you need to figure out.

(2)The one i personally like on a physical note is a girl with a uniform complexion (fair/wheaty doesn't matter) from her head to toe and who carries a bindi on her forehead matching/contrasting with her moderately body-fit kurti. (Yes i admit this went a little bit into clothing).

(3)That kathak typa girl with nice saari around her waist and amazing expressions is preferred by many of the boys. A typical example of this description is Pi's girlfriend in the movie "Life of Pi" , when Pi was in his teenage. Remember ? She was lovely.

(4)Girls , we love it when you gallop at gol gappas & paster at the pasteries , but as far as we know that you are having the knowledge of a perfect diet and  correct information regarding keeping your body healthy   and those cheeks , pink , its surely not a problem for us! Lets gallop together !

(5)Even though you know how tough we behave , how masculine our attitudes are and however rude we be at your feminine tips , do keep on telling those health , dressing , style tips to us. They would come handy    at some point of life and at that time we would call you and say how awesome you are !

(6)Its always friendship first and love later on. So girls please please please develop a habit of talking to your guy with a hand on his shoulder  whenever you are walking (just like when two guys walk that way) ! It would create wonders for you .

(7)Lets come to a very heavy yet usual point :
   (7.1)A guy would not prefer that her girl smokes & drinks.Try to be so if possible.I repeat if possible.
  (7.2)Drinks , parties are a way of life in this century.We cannot stop you or restrict you because we ourselves enjoy doing it. But try to be a teetotaler , your guy would love it i guarantee.
  (7.3)It would be fine if you want to have these things but do it only when you are around your husband/boyfriend. He would allow you to do it if thats between you and him only !
   (7.4)If you drink/smoke more than your husband/boyfriend , do not think negative of you.Party hard at times and get equally wasted at a night out.That is also a bonding activity but just take care of your health and the after-effects which usually are negative in most cases ! Mind well , you can equally get wasted in (7.3) too !
   (7.5)Puke together ! Fun !
   (7.6)A mannered party session with knowing-your-limits attitude is preferred by most boys.I hope this points gets a clear view.

(8)Even if you are in a board meeting , with parents , with brother , with narendra modi or barack O'clinton , please don't press that red button on your phone whenever your better half is calling you. Cut the call == rude. Answer it most of the time and if not possible , do some quick setting on your phone. I bet the sentence "I haven't seen a girl in my life who has not even neglected my single call in the whole year" would be like a blessing whenever you guys are in your bedroom on a lazy night.

(9)We know you dress up for looking pretty in your ownself but understand the event and dress up.A push up / low neck / slain / belly driven clothes at events like theatre / get together / concert / crowded place would embarass us and you too ! A smart move like wearing a white top with a black leather jacket would boost up that event like anything.

(10)Intelligent . Period !

(11)Girl , if you part yourself from the local herd and their likings , even your off-beat tastes can create a fan typa boyfriend.

(12)Love kids , hate them at times , love animals , dont hate them at times , love food and hate some varieties which we like. A little bit of contrast is good

(13)Have a great taste as far as food is concerned.We all know modern girls dont cook and even if they cook , they dont cook like 90s. So learn to cook and use those tasty tips & likes of you partner to guide your home-chef accordingly.Its almost equivalent to cooking !

(14)Leave the "Acha ladka tha" college attitude.It would sound cool amongst your group but a rather opposite attitude can earn respect .

(15)Creativity in all whether college , office , restaurant , chats , travelling , anything makes him like you more.

(16)If you are too much frustrated with him , discussion is not a way I know , so scream , yell , shout and hit him hard.Its a lot better activity than ploting reactions. Plotting/revenge feelings are relationship killers.

(17)Sharpen your aadmi-pehchaning skills. A guy would love it when you had passed on some predictions and it hits the correct point in future !

(18)Dance like crazy (so you can make him dance) orelse dont do it (so he'll make you dance). Know those mood swings in him since you are with him froma long time

(19)Another heavy but a usual one
   (19.1)I see a piece of code affecting lives of many these days ! The evil is a web termite called facebook.Value the risks and socialize !
    (19.2)Uploading,tagging,commenting,liking,friending,blocking,restricting affects both the lives in internet age.Be ultra sensible.
     (19.3)I do not see much in this point , because we all know the nuances of profile on facebook. We need you to be a pro at FBing !
     (19.4)Provide some tips to your guy which even he doesnt know about facebook.Hell you just beated you software professional boyfriend !

(20)Wildness at home , wildness on a no-man road , wildness on holidays , complete wildness in bedroom is so preferred. The dual personality is always appreciable . A lap dance in a while would make him crazy. Spice up his life !

(21)Stay away from those types of hyped people , hyped friends and dont get into a fame & likes based vicious circle ! It would be tough but fruitful.

(22)Always drive the car and always do that. It can be a ek-teer-do-nishaan. He would appreciate you for your good driving skills unlike other ladies plus the care she takes for your comfort. Do drive when his friends/family is on. That creates an altogether positive set.

(23)Surprise him (take care of the mood swings in this case)

(24)Spend a hell lot of his money but be smart to pass sugar statement at the end so that he gives you his credit card for any transaction you want! I hope you understand what i am trying to say here !

(25)Get the top notch information about the industry , your husband/bf is working in and discuss it with him over dinner.

(26)Play those brainy and addictive games in your common I-pad and show your highscore to him daily during bedtime ! You are awesome , if you make him an addict too !

(27)Know the trends of the industry , your husband/bf is working in and be mentally prepared to switch/jump to any place around the world if necessary. This is a really important point to be taken into consideration.This is a really really important point if you are still in the intial years of your relationship and you are about to get married.

(28)A daily/weekly/every fort-night change of hairstyle infront of your husband/bf is always preferred.

(29)Get into his office for recruitment event. Do some arrangements with HR to let you in a interview where he is a panel member. This would be fun event

(30)Jolly all the time

(31)Please do not have lots of make-up & cosmetics.Guys hate it when you put-on even some.

(32)Show smartness & concerns wherever applicable . For eg : Whenever there is a option to buy vegetables/fruits from a shop and a laari , do it from laari explaining the benefits to the laariwala and humanity to which your boyfriend would give you a beautiful smile.

(33)Guys still love nerdy yet beautiful girls.

(34)Pass on a shayari once in a while to your better half !

(35)Save some or earn good to gift him some holidays.It should not always be the other way round.

(36)Wear those large earings sometimes.

(37)Go spend on those cleansing & exfoliating sessions. Boys love THAT after glow.

(38)We always adore you in indian outfits however sexy you look in western clothes

(39)A NO after 10 YES is acceptable.We'll plan our demands and wishes accordingly.

(40)Mature . Period !

(41)Don't hide anything from your partner.However terrible it is/was , discuss !

(42)Know the different mood lifters very well

(43)A random sardar joke during dinner.Small habits like this makes a long term cheerful image in you boyfriend's heart.

(44)Be a movie and song and youtube enthusiast.It would be a pleasure to get updates from our partner herself .

(45)Give his hard earned money to all possible beggars even if he shouts.Shout is momentary but. . . you know the thing.

(46)Be greedy at points which involve your husband/boyfriend's safety but is profitable/entertaining.

(47)If you share a common hobby/sport , develop/play it together.There can be nothing like this.

(48)Use all different nuances/dialects/styles of speech while fun talk with your spouse.

(49)Find ways to spice the relations in one way or the other. This is a important thing on a whole


So redirect your crush/girlfriend/wife to this link so that it can help/boost your thingy.

P.S - Let me know your wants if they are different from above , so that the list goes wild.   

You can even post as comments.

Happy loving :)